A few weeks ago I created a blast asking for people who may be interested in being my partner in a photo shoot. I would like to thank all of the awesome people who responded. Picking the final person to be the “mystery model” was a challenge. I ended up choosing an old friend of mine whose identity will not be revealed until the photo project is up for view. I wanted someone who is not well-known in my poetry scene, someone who nobody really knows, someone I have chemistry with, and someone beautiful. I did not have a preference on gender but I will tell you that the mystery model is a woman.
History of the mystery model and I:
This person is awesome! I met her the summer of 2010. Throughout our friendship our personalities have clashed something terrible, yet we are able to continue to be friends. She taught me a lot about relationships. I believe that some people come into your lives to usher you into being the better person that you will be. She has most definitely been that person for me. She taught me to focus on intimacy instead of sex. She taught me that building a friendship is the most powerful bond you can build with a potential mate. Somewhere around March of 2011 we had a disagreement which caused a separation between us. We stopped hanging out, then later in the year she got a new job and moved away.
The argument was my fault. I had lost a great friend. I had lost a bond with someone who could finally teach me something. I felt so bad about it. I wanted to send her a thousand hugs and a million apologies but it didn’t matter. Her personality would not hear of it. I wrote her this dumb long letter about how sorry I was. She never responded (LOL). I figured I would never have a chance to speak with her again. During the time that we were not speaking she became the little voice in the back of my head with every possible relationship opportunity. So many times I wanted to call her and ask for her opinion on something, but was too afraid of what she might say. Somewhere around August 2011 I decided I was just going to text her and see what happens. I text her “Hi” and she replied “Hi Shelly.” I was so hype! You would have thought someone said yes to a marriage proposal (HA!). I was just so glad that she didn’t fill her reply with 140 characters of expletives.
From then on I would just send her messages every now and then just to make sure it was for real. Just making sure she was really going to text me back. The interaction was very minimal still, which was cool I was just glad to be back in contact with her. When I sent out the info for the intimate friends photo shoot I really had no clue who to choose. As I scrolled through my phone for potential models I came across her name. I was so afraid to ask her. I felt like I would be pushing it to ask her to come from her new home to do a photo shoot with me. Then I said “oh well, what the heck all she can do is say no.” So I text her and SHE SAID YES! I was soooo hype! I couldn’t believe it! We set the date and everything was ready to go.
The day of the photo shoot (December 18, 2011)
I pick up the mystery model from the bus station. I hadn’t seen or really spoken to her in 8 months. The morning started out rocky. I was like 5 minutes late, it was super cold outside, she was hungry and waiting. A woman who is hungry, cold and waiting is never a happy camper. She had the usual amount of attitude. It was to be expected. We went to this awesome brunch at a place called Freddie’s in Crystal City. Everybody and their mama must go to Freddie’s as soon as their life allows! This place is completely awesome! The mystery model and I picked up our conversations with sentiments from the new people we have become. I would have to say over the past 8 months we are not the assholes we used to be. We both were a little uptight and stuck on some things then that we are much more clear on now. Conversations with her always make me reflect on myself. I like that. We headed over to Clinton, MD for the shoot at about noon. Feeling awesome from good conversation and mimosa we were ready to get the party started.
Douglas Jacobs is by far my favorite photographer. His energy is awesome. He and his friend are inspired by great art. Therefore, when they get a good shot they express it with an “ah man” or a “yes!” or some other funny saying they’ve created. This was her first photo shoot and I was feeling insecure about my weight. Once the camera started rolling none of that mattered. We had fun! We got awesome shots! I won’t say too much about the poses or images from the shoot. I will just say that you are in for an artistic treat. Afterward we went to dinner. I dropped her off at the bus station and retired at home with my babies. This photo shoot experience was awesome to say the least. I truly appreciate her coming all the way here to do it for me. I will take that as a display of forgiveness. Even though our lives have totally moved forward since the last time we’ve spoken we were able to pick up and hang out again. It was nice to have yesterday back for a few hours. As I return to today I am thankful for yesterday’s intriguing inspirational conversations. My new friend will get the best of me because my yesterday has taught me so much.
INTIMATE FRIENDS PHOTO PROJECT….DONE! Check out “The Liberation Movement” link above for info on the next project.
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